{"id":3983,"date":"2013-03-01T06:00:25","date_gmt":"2013-03-01T11:00:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.allandouglas.com\/blog\/?p=3983"},"modified":"2025-04-21T01:56:41","modified_gmt":"2025-04-21T05:56:41","slug":"dealing-with-a-speed-bump-in-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/pineymountainfoster.org\/thoughts\/dealing-with-a-speed-bump-in-life\/","title":{"rendered":"Dealing with a Speed-Bump in Life"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright\" style=\"border: 0px none; margin: 5px;\" alt=\"speed bump, problems, life, difficulties,\" src=\"http:\/\/farm9.staticflickr.com\/8151\/7421496446_3158e84f5c_n_d.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"256\" \/>It has happened to all of us; we\u2019re cruising along the boulevard of life, one elbow out the window, our favorite happy tunes playing on the radio, hand tapping the wheel in time with the tempo.\u00a0 Everything is grand, and we\u2019re having a great time.\u00a0 So great we miss the warning sign; \u201cBump Ahead\u2019.\u00a0 Then BAM-BAM, we\u2019re suddenly careening along, barely hanging on as we try to slow down and get off to the shoulder so we can assess the damage.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s never fun to feel like the wheels have been ripped out from under you, but when it sneaks up on you suddenly, out of the blue is especially devastating.\u00a0 What can you do?\u00a0 How do you proceed from here?\u00a0<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>Every situation will be different depending on the person\u2019s circumstances and what happened, so I must proceed in general terms.\u00a0 Returning to our analogy; first gather your wits and make sure you are strong enough to stand up.\u00a0 Then inspect the vehicle for damage; are any tires flat, and pieces knocked off or fluids leaking out?\u00a0 If not, you can probably proceed, cautiously.\u00a0 If severe damage is noted, you will need help, trying to press on will only make things worse.<\/p>\n<p>What does that mean in real life?\u00a0 If the speed-bump was a major disappointment; an engagement that was called off or a job offer you counted on that fizzled, a friend who betrays you, something like that, you will be able to carry on.\u00a0 You just need to focus on the road ahead and not on what is behind you.\u00a0 You can not change what has happened and there is no point in being consumed by thoughts of \u201cIf I had only\u2026\u201d\u00a0 Learn from the mistake, and press on.\u00a0 If you are convinced that there was no fault on your part (\u201cwhat warning sign, there was NO warning sign, I\u2019m sure of it!\u201d) you may need a dispassionate outside opinion.\u00a0 But in either case, it won\u2019t change what happened.\u00a0 If someone has wronged you the best revenge is living well, not striking back.\u00a0 Retaliation just takes you down to their level.<\/p>\n<p>If damage is done; the death of someone dear to you, loss of your home or livelihood, major illness, cheating spouse, etc, you will need to seek help to tow the wreck in, assess the damage and make repairs.\u00a0 Depending on the situation, a marriage counselor, a Pastor, a therapist, or a support group could be your answer.\u00a0 Don\u2019t get all prideful and think you can get it to the next town on your own.\u00a0 Call for help.\u00a0 The sooner you do, the easier it will be to make repairs and get back out on the roadway.<\/p>\n<p>It may be a while before you are confident enough to go cruising again, but at least you will be getting where you need to go instead of being broken down on the shoulder watching life pass you by.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"420\" height=\"315\" src=\"\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Y6hz_s2XIAU\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It has happened to all of us; we&rsquo;re cruising along the boulevard of life, one elbow out the window, our favorite happy tunes playing on the radio, hand tapping the wheel in time with the tempo.&nbsp; Everything is grand, and we&rsquo;re having a great time.&nbsp; So great we miss the warning sign; &ldquo;Bump Ahead&rsquo;.&nbsp; Then &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/pineymountainfoster.org\/thoughts\/dealing-with-a-speed-bump-in-life\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;Dealing with a Speed-Bump in Life&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[26,58],"class_list":["post-3983","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-life","tag-life-2","tag-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/pineymountainfoster.org\/thoughts\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3983","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/pineymountainfoster.org\/thoughts\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/pineymountainfoster.org\/thoughts\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pineymountainfoster.org\/thoughts\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pineymountainfoster.org\/thoughts\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3983"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/pineymountainfoster.org\/thoughts\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3983\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":21562,"href":"https:\/\/pineymountainfoster.org\/thoughts\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3983\/revisions\/21562"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/pineymountainfoster.org\/thoughts\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3983"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pineymountainfoster.org\/thoughts\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3983"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pineymountainfoster.org\/thoughts\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3983"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}